WHAT JERALYN RITCHELLE MEANS

You are fair, honest, and logical. You are a natural leader, and people respect you.
You never give up, and you will succeed... even if it takes you a hundred tries.
You are rational enough to see every part of a problem. You are great at giving other people advice.

You are friendly, charming, and warm. You get along with almost everyone.
You work hard not to rock the boat. Your easy going attitude brings people together.
At times, you can be a little flaky and irresponsible. But for the important things, you pull it together.

You are wild, crazy, and a huge rebel. You're always up to something.
You have a ton of energy, and most people can't handle you. You're very intense.
You definitely are a handful, and you're likely to get in trouble. But your kind of trouble is a lot of fun.

You are usually the best at everything ... you strive for perfection.
You are confident, authoritative, and aggressive.
You have the classic "Type A" personality.

You are relaxed, chill, and very likely to go with the flow.
You are light hearted and accepting. You don't get worked up easily.
Well adjusted and incredibly happy, many people wonder what your secret to life is.

You are a free spirit, and you resent anyone who tries to fence you in.
You are unpredictable, adventurous, and always a little surprising.
You may miss out by not settling down, but you're too busy having fun to care.

You are very intuitive and wise. You understand the world better than most people.
You also have a very active imagination. You often get carried away with your thoughts.
You are prone to a little paranoia and jealousy. You sometimes go overboard in interpreting signals.

You tend to be pretty tightly wound. It's easy to get you excited... which can be a good or bad thing.
You have a lot of enthusiasm, but it fades rather quickly. You don't stick with any one thing for very long.
You have the drive to accomplish a lot in a short amount of time. Your biggest problem is making sure you finish the projects you start.

You are a seeker. You often find yourself restless - and you have a lot of questions about life.
You tend to travel often, to fairly random locations. You're most comfortable when you're far away from home.
You are quite passionate and easily tempted. Your impulses sometimes get you into trouble.

You are very open. You communicate well, and you connect with other people easily.
You are a naturally creative person. Ideas just flow from your mind.
A true chameleon, you are many things at different points in your life. You are very adaptable.

You are truly an original person. You have amazing ideas, and the power to carry them out.
Success comes rather easily for you... especially in business and academia.
Some people find you to be selfish and a bit overbearing. You're a strong person.

HE'S MY "BF"(When your best friend turns out to be you dream boy friend)

Have you ever experienced falling in love to someone you consider your closest friend without him knowing it? It's not that easy, right? Especially if the two of you are always seeing each other. But what could be more complicated if it's your best friend whom you are in love with?

Being together everyday, sharing fun memories and laughing your hearts out, it's very fun to be with your best bud. He's very caring and thoughtful. And you really have great times whenever you're with him. He's like your ideal guy, your best friend, and a kuya too. But, then suddenly, just when he opened the door for you or asked to carry your things, your felt your heart beating so fast. You weren't aware, but it seems like you've fallen for your best friend.

For all those times you two were together, he has been so nice to you. If it's not because of the fact that you are best buddies, he might be mistaken as your boyfriend. It feels so right. Yet, it's also uncomfortable.

Since the day you felt different for him, things have also changed. You tend to give meaning to everything he does for you. And at the same time, you also feel disappointed if something not good happens, like seeing him with his other friends. You start to get jealous. But you also aren't like before, when you two run after and tickle each other. Why? Because you've been watching your movements when he's around. You somehow becomes shy. You tend to be different from the best friend that he used to have.

Being in this kind of situation would really give you headache--or worst, a heartache. You are clueless of what could happen if knew about it. There will only be two possible endings: your best friend feeling the same way too or a friendship under pretensions.

JUST WHEN YOU THOUGHT YOU'VE LOST YOUR EVERYTHING.

"The problem's not you.. it's me. It's just that we can't be together anymore."

It's never easy to just forget something that you have been used to. It's like your favorite doll being taken away from you when you're still a little girl. At first, you can't cope up. You'll miss its presence and long for it once in a while. Why? Because of one simple reason: you've had it for a very long time that it has already become a part of your life. But hey, do you think you'll just stay on that "i miss my doll" situation until the end of your life? If you think you will, then think again.

Letting go has really become one of the hardest choices a person makes. We can't just simply let go of what we have in just a snap. It hurts a lot, actually. But still, you can't even hold on to something that needs to go. It's the reality of life. Change is the only permanent thing in this world as they say.

Same goes in relationships. There will come a time when suddenly, everything changes. You'd be asking yourself, "what's the matter with him?" or "what's going on?". You are absolutely clueless. Yea right, you two are still together. But you feel that there's something weird going on. You'd ask him about the problem, and as usual, he'll just say "nothing". Then you think about it and realize that there's no problem at all. So you'll ignore it. And you're back to normal routines.

Days will pass. And without you knowing it, so is your partner. Just when you thought everything is alright, he'll come up to you and say, "The problem's not you.. it's me. It's just that we can't be together anymore." You'd be in shock, and start to wonder what went wrong. Random thoughts will run through your mind. Amidst all these, one word stands out : "WHY?". You talk to him and ask about it, but nothing clears it up. Instead, his explanations left deeper questions.

So what happens next? Left into oblivion, you'd tell him that you'll try to work things out -- you'll plea. But even if you do that, it won't change the situation and the truth that your relationship with him is over -- that he has left you for good.

You can do nothing about it anymore. He has decided, and you just have to respect his decision. Even if it hurts, all you can do is accept what happened and let go. That's hard, I know. But you have no other choice. And you now have to face your biggest fear of losing him. You can't hold him back, because you know to yourself that he won't let you.

After being so used of having him by your side, sending you texts every day and walking you home, you now feel alone and down. You feel incomplete. You feel worthless. You feel that you've lost your "everything". Wait, stop on that part. He isn't your everything, remember? And that's also the reality. You still have your friends willing to help you get through it. They're just waiting for you to let them lend a hand. It's not the end of the world yet. And all you have to do is divert your attention onto something else, make yourself busy, and most importantly, don't ever blame yourself on what happened. And if you really want to move on, then cut your communications for a couple of months. That's helpful, I'm telling you. Besides, would you still want to be with someone who has left you for no reason at all? It's his decision, so let him face it.

Time will pass and you'll be able to adjust to everything and be back to how you live your life before he has come into it. If you see him, there's no big deal. Who knows? Maybe, all the experiences you've gone through will be enough to make you know what to do next. And remember, just when you thought you've lost your everything, there would always be those significant others who will bring you back to reality and make you realize that everything isn't lost yet -- he's just a passerby who made you into a wiser person you are now.

--june 25, 2008 | 4:38 pm

SILENCE DOESN'T ALWAYS DO YOU GOOD.

We all have done big mistakes in our lives, don't we? There always comes a time when all we'd choose to do amidst all discrepancies is to be silent, and do nothing about it. "Just let it be" as other people say. But what if your failure of speaking out your mind actually creates a lot more conflict? Would you still be silent?

Sometimes, fighting back isn't always inappropriate. If you know that you're on the right side, then you have to stand for yourself and don't let them take control -- because there are lots of abusive people out there who don't actually care about others. All they care about is their selves and the things that they get advantage on. Well, these people usually think how a certain person could help them on things that will be favorable for them -- who takes everything for granted : SELFISH KIDS.

For goodness' sake, why are there people like them? They will befriend a person and let her fall for their trap. Being so nice and all, Ms. Nice Girl would do nothing about it and just stay quiet. Why? Simply because she doesn't want to lose her "friends". Merely aware of the real situation, she will just ignore everything and pretend that everything is alright. So what happens to the "friends"? You think they will tell her? If you say that they won't, then you're definitely right.

They will absolutely do nothing about it. Why would they bother? The food is already served and all they have to do is enjoy it. You get my point? Instead, they will also pretend that it's not their intention to "use" their "friend". And that's it. It won't stop unless something is done about it.

Now that's the reason why I'm saying that silence doesn't always do you good. You'll never know, it may lead you to your live nightmare -- world being suffocated by beasts masked by innocent faces, waiting for you to fall for their trap.

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june 24, 2008 | 8:21 am